Three TOXIC things women say to themselves
Your self-dialogue MATTERS.
We spend 24/7/365 talking to ourselves.
This is just the way we are wired.
Are you guilty of saying these TOXIC things to yourself?
I'll be happy as soon as….
.. l get in shape
.. Buy my dream house
.. Start a business
.. Get a raise / promotion
.. Meet/marry my perfect half
.. Start a family
.. Get more free time
Sounds familiar?
Setting goals is awesome but don’t attach your happiness to them.
What happens when you reach that goal and you still aren't happy? You’ll set another goal and again decide that you’ll finally be happy when you reach it. This sounds like a never ending cycle of unhappiness. The key to happiness is to be grateful for what you already have.
Appreciate your body, your skills and talents, your achievements WHILE you’re working towards those big goals!
Your happiness is in your hands and you can CHOOSE to feel happy now.
I'm not worth it
YES YOU ARE!
If you’ve been a part of our La Perla Boudoir VIP community for awhile you’ve heard me repeating this over and over again: "Know your worth, then add tax". Why? Because you were created uniquely YOU and there is no other you in this world. You have every single right to celebrate yourself and your uniqueness. You deserve to be loved. You deserve happiness. You deserve to spoil yourself and be spoiled. You deserve everything your heart desires and even more.
You are worth it!
I hate myself
This is a painful one.
So, what do you REALLY mean when you say that to yourself?
You are not happy with the way you see yourself?
Dislike a current version of yourself?
Your perception of yourself is similar to credit score. It’s just a snapshot. It can change (and will change)!
Again, it comes down to seeing yourself as worthy no matter what.
Because YOU ARE.
Once you get on a path of accepting yourself for who you are and realizing your worthiness miracles will start happening. You will realize that you can (and will!) accomplish so much and your actions or future actions can (and will!) spark a change around you. You are a complete precious package of gifts and talents waiting to be discovered and shared with the world.
Open carefully and treat with kindness!
How to stop being mean to yourself?
Baby steps.
Ever morning set an intention to have an amazing day and do your best to notice good things no matter what.
Compliment yourself.
Don’t compare yourself to others and instead celebrate your successes, big or small.
Surrounded yourself with amazing supportive people.
Come up with positive phrases that you can use when you catch yourself thinking toxic thoughts.
Pay attention to your inner dialogue and redirect your thoughts if needed.
Take self-care breaks and treat yourself to something nice on a regular basis.
Take one hour, one day, one week at a time.
You deserve happiness, so give it a shot and let me know how it goes ❤️
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